In this part , I will complete my tips and advices regarding husbands and wives. Second tip, we should be considerate for each other, in another words we have to feel with each other, no selfishness in marriage because I found that most men in most societies tend to be selfish as they think of their needs ,demands, desires ,dreams, success and happiness…..etc.
Men should represent their manhood by giving women strength, patience, ability to move on regardless pain and suffer from different problems in family concerning house, raising children ,cleaning….etc.
Family means unity if part of it left this will make defect in family ,we should be aware of our unity ,strength ,courage , help ,success with each other .
A study made shows that if time get back ,I mean to get back to past ,you would not choose your partner by about 85% -90% which is high percentage ,this means that you should know about your partner before marriage and feel that this marriage will succeed.
In this paragraph I will tell a story of my dearest friend in her painful marriage, my friend married with a man who has married before ,has three children ,she was single so she came to a broken family to be alternative mother for three kids . in the beginning it was very hard to cope with their needs ,demands, feelings as they felt heart broken because their biological mother is not with them.
She tried very hard to break the ice in this family to make the husband love her as well as his kids, but this husband was in love with hie ex-wife and found it hard to love another although he has ill legal relations with sluts. She is strong to raise two daughters ,they are twins and one son,she taught them how to behave ,clean,tidy their bedroom,helping her in house work. All this didn’t bring her happiness ,she married traditional marriage ,doesn’t know this person very well ,he betrayed her ,treat her as baby sitter and maid for his children ,but what makes her to stay that this husband was generous in his house not on her ,only what they need to eat or drink.
She has now one son and doctors say that it is impossible to have another.
She feels that this marriage such abuse for her as her family obliged her to marry this person because her age is 25 years old, how savage ,not modern thinking that she will not have a suitable chance because for their point of view become old .
Trouble after trouble faced this poor, misfortunate women ,she used to take care of his elderly mother all in vain, no love for her as he took alternative mother to tease his ex-wife and show her that he can bring younger , more beautiful than her.
He wanted to satisfy his arrogance , this husband thought women are tool in his hand whenever he wanted it got it if not ,he will throw it. This ignorant man destroyed her life ignoring her emotions, feelings as human need love , passion not only food and accommodation.
This painful story ends with divorce and her son now with his father with other kids and they have step mother as this man married three times and thinking to bring the fourth wife…….( To be Continued).
