Family Issues part 6

In part 5 we discuss the most important point is that trust. In this part I would like to talk about sincerity , this is will be my fifth tip.

I don’t why people tend to find lie is the easiest way for not having trouble.What I believe is we should all be honest about what we feel ,says, doing, actions ,as well as honest about ourselves.

Lies after lies will make distances bigger over and over, hearts will be broken, torn apart because this is the most destructive weapon for women and men alike.

I will admit something that in my Arabic Culture ,men as well as women for most of them tend to lie to each other to feel free, relaxed, having no problem to discuss any of their problems ,desires,dreams,for even for going out ,it is like that men tend to be aggressive with their decisions that led women for quick option is that lie to them ,make them feel that their manhood is not abused by women.

In relationships both partners have to lie to each other so ship will move forward ,not losing each other for whim or desire to be with some one else.I always found that men are selfish, moody ,arrogant ,but not all of them .this apply on most of them .why I feel that universe is changeable with different values, motions, because I always believe that life is changeable.

I want from each partner to hide truth not lie if possible as it will save someone`s life.not for everything sometimes to satisfy our desires ,called it privacy ,as I always believe in privacy ,but when it comes to have possessed partner things will be complicated and consequences might be worse.



Should partners be honest, sincere ,loyal ---etc ,have good ethics with each other to move on in their lives and make their happiness together ,because when you share your feelings, miseries, success, happiness with your partner,half of heavy burden has been removed.

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Family Issues part 5

In this part I will discuss fourth tip for husbands and wives, so trust is my theme for this article as it is the most important thing in our life is trust.

I would say that trust has many entrances as well as many meanings in our life . Trust means to give the person you trust all faith, loyalty, sincerity, honesty, as well as your soul.

What I found these days that we can`t find the right person to trust as partners tend to hide things from each other , because the other person may feel depressed from knowing bitter truth , such frankness hurts.

For me frankness means to be open and truthful in front of the person you choose to be your match , the same person you choose to complete your whole life, but the bitter truth is that we found dishonest ,this is not apply to all for most people ,you cant find the real person to trust these days as materialistic world dominates ,maybe you find it silly or nonsense and would say how come this has nothing to do with materialistic world ,I would explain it in my own words and say jealousy besides envy make human beings are blind ,they break trust when it comes to one`s interest.

For example, partners when one is more successful than the other especially in marriage ,men can`t endure the idea that women are more successful in different positions ,have the ability to be powerful, successful, this means for most men the loss, disability to dominate ,depression , as well as not highly self-esteem .

So the conclusion that some men tend to be more aggressive ,break the trust of their wives ,tried to break their success ,achievements,to depress their wives ,let them down to reach their goals and to dominate.

I would recommend that trust is very very important to build secure, strong, fortitude family ,it is all about trust between family members ,we should believe and trust our God first,then to trust our family if they deserve it. If not it is another story everything will be irritated ,dull and not comfortable.



Finally,we should choose the right person to trust as these days things become more complicated and changeable.(To be Continued).

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Family Issues Part 4

In family issues part 3, I mentioned true story to support my tips and advices for partners. In this part I will talk about third tip for each partner.

Third tip, not be ingratitude I found that both husbands as well as wives are not gratitude especially when they have a fight, both of them forget the good turn from each other. This happened when one of the partners decided to leave or have a new partner (this much common in Islamic Societies) as men can have four wives,but in certain circumstances not for fun, that is when a man has a lot of money and can afford to have a second wife ,this is possible ,that is a case .In another words there must be good reasons to have multi wives.

We should be grateful for each other in all cases whether one of them likes to stay or not. We should not mention our mistakes, faults, sins, behaviors ….etc for people plus invent stories about each other to leave.

We can be more modern and just say :we are not suitable for each other ,that is all .it does not need more effort or justification for other ,I mean when one`s life is about to be ruined ,people should be his/her to last thing to worry about.

I advice all partners to think thoroughly of their problems ,try to solve them because this is not impossible , the relation between husbands and wives have to be strong enough to move on with their financial problems ,difficulties ,raising children, manage their life ….etc.



Finally, in this tip I would like to add that nobody is perfect ,we all have advantages and disadvantages either. You can not find complete person ,but we can find someone who endure to live with us ,when they have much in common in habits, qualities .lifestyle and much more.(To be Continued).   

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Economics Home 3

I talked about last part about how we economize at home as we face financial problems in the whole world. Today, I would like to discuss how housewives can make good earnings while they are sitting at home.

First of all, many housewives are good in cooking so they can use their talent to sell food from their houses in good price. For example, pastries, desserts, different recipes all can be cooked at house.

Housewives who can`t leave their houses for reason or another, can cook food in house and have good earnings, so that housewives can make different marketing ways to promote their food to be sold to schools, institutions….etc.

Housewives also can make sewing at home plus handmade wool like dresses , hats ,skirts ,baby clothes, for decorations and so on…..

Housewives can put ads.to promote their commodities in business cards,T.V, facebook,newspaper----etc.Then,their commodities will be sold and they get benefit of this.what I believe that women are so strong and they can turn any house into heaven for most of women.

Another idea is that some women allocate certain room for hair dressing,make up, nail&body care in their house especially in urban and country side where is not enough hair saloon to cut hair ----etc.so many ideas in house available for housewives to make good earnings.

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Economics Home

In different articles we discussed how to economize in house, today I would like to discuss how we utlize from our garden,back yards,any space in house to plant vegetables and fruits.

We all know that many vegetables and fruits can be grown in home`s garden, and back yards if we plant them in better environment suitable to what we decide to plant.

First of all, if we plant potatoes, tomatoes ,mint, parsley ,eggplant, aubergines ,cucumber,water melon, lemon, olive, pears, fig, onions …..etc.

How much money do you save if you plant these fantastic ,useful food in your garden. I prefer to eat an apple directly from tree ,how delicious fruit!

Try this in your garden and turn it to heaven plus a useful garden to eat from different types of food ,get different variety of vegetables and fruits.



Finally, you can see the difference when you get what you want from your precious garden ,things will be fine and great.

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How to economize in house 2

Home economics is very important in our life because it saves a lot for housewives and employed mothers as well.

I would like to talk about how to use left food when we finish our meals most people tend to throw food in rubbish bin, instead of putting it in fridge ,we save much money plus time ,for example if you eat French fries and you have a little left don’t throw it seal it closely ,then put it in freezer when you decide to cook chicken and onion in tray you can you use those potatoes ready to cook .

Another example when you have bread left you can use the left bread in salad , but you should fry them ,then put it with different types of salads.

In Arabic countries or Mediterranean countries use cooked yoghurt or buttermilk in most recipes like Mansaf which is traditional food in Jordan , Jordanian cooked it in invitations and ceremonies', if you have much or less buttermilk you can put it in freezer and cook it later by adding Potatoes cubes and onion with magi chicken stocks plus spices you like.

I highlighted on left food ,now I like to discuss left fruits ,let us suppose that you have good quantity of fruit left after you peeled them to your kids or guests ,then what to do first of all you should cut them into small pieces and put them in blender ,after that you will have a nice, delicious and useful cocktail ,another tip for left fruit is to make fruit salad which is useful, healthy as well as delicious.



Some people have places for chicken, rabbits, cats ,dogs …..etc. you can feed them healthy food by serving them left food you have like chicken, meat, rice, and so on ,it is the food you eat ,it is not important to spend thousands of Dollar or any other currency to feed pets ,if they are living with you or not .try this and you will find the big difference in budget.

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Family Issues part 3

In this part , I will complete my tips and advices regarding husbands and wives. Second tip, we should be considerate for each other, in another words we have to feel with each other, no selfishness in marriage because I found that most men in most societies tend to be selfish as they think of their needs ,demands, desires ,dreams, success and happiness…..etc.

Men should represent their manhood by giving women strength, patience, ability to move on regardless pain and suffer from different problems in family concerning house, raising children ,cleaning….etc.

Family means unity if part of it left this will make defect in family ,we should be aware of our unity ,strength ,courage , help ,success with each other .

A study made shows that if time get back ,I mean to get back to past ,you would not choose your partner by about 85% -90% which is high percentage ,this means that you should know about your partner before marriage and feel that this marriage will succeed.

In this paragraph I will tell a story of my dearest friend in her painful marriage, my friend married with a man who has married before ,has three children ,she was single so she came to a broken family to be alternative mother for three kids . in the beginning it was very hard to cope with their needs ,demands, feelings as they felt heart broken because their biological mother is not with them.

She tried very hard to break the ice in this family to make the husband love her as well as his kids, but this husband was in love with hie ex-wife and found it hard to love another although he has ill legal relations with sluts. She is strong to raise two daughters ,they are twins and one son,she taught them how to behave ,clean,tidy their bedroom,helping her in house work. All this didn’t bring her happiness ,she married traditional marriage ,doesn’t know this person very well ,he betrayed her ,treat her as baby sitter and maid for his children ,but what makes her to stay that this husband was generous in his house not on her ,only what they need to eat or drink.

She has now one son and doctors say that it is impossible to have another.

She feels that this marriage such abuse for her as her family obliged her to marry this person because her age is 25 years old, how savage ,not modern thinking that she will not have a suitable chance because for their point of view become old .

Trouble after trouble faced this poor, misfortunate women ,she used to take care of his elderly mother all in vain, no love for her as he took alternative mother to tease his ex-wife and show her that he can bring younger , more beautiful than her.

He wanted to satisfy his arrogance , this husband thought women are tool in his hand whenever he wanted it got it if not ,he will throw it. This ignorant man destroyed her life ignoring her emotions, feelings as human need love , passion not only food and accommodation.



This painful story ends with divorce and her son now with his father with other kids and they have step mother as this man married three times and thinking to bring the fourth wife…….( To be Continued).

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Family Issues 2

In this article I would like to highlights important subject that is relation between husband and wife as they are the main members of the family.

First of all, it is common sense that all families have problems between husbands and wives thus, i would say that routine in daily life ,different points of views create problems, especially most men thought that they said or had the right solutions for an issue, I believe that husband and wives are partners should reach an agreement to a certain issue.

When you live with someone for decade or decades, then the both sides get bored of each other as you feel that there is nothing new in the person you have, so I will suggest some tips they may help some of women and men alike in this particular issue.

First tip wives should change somehow in their looks ,fashions, body weight if you have this problem, lifestyles just let your husband feels that you look different not to feel bored of you, make jokes, delicious food might attract your husband to feel the difference.

From time to time wives should have special time with husbands such as preparing for romantic dinner, lunch, to get rid of routine ,put candles as well as soft music.

Try to renew your feelings because by time you feel that you are with the wrong person if you feel shortage of love, sympathy, passionate, caring and so on….

I will make a joke and say ,it is ok if one of them find another perfect partner instead of the same boring person, well that is ok, but for sure children will be victims by the end of the story.

All I can say that I am good believer in fate and destiny when it comes to life because God prepare our fate ,this doesn’t mean to through our faults, sins, mistakes on God ,but when you feel that God wrote you another life to live with another person ,this is fate you should live it as it is. I want in second part of tips , i will explain thoroughly issues and fact stories to get the lesson and learn (To be continued……

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Family issues

Day after day, year after year …. Parents and family members feel different feelings in each day of our lives. Wondering if we can cope of our (worries, future, present , earnings, finding new accommodations, suitable careers ,food ….etc).

Life becomes more and more harder for adults as well as teenagers and elderly people. I want here in my article to explain different issues and points in our different lifestyles, it is hard for families who are living with very small amount of money to cope with all every single member in it, to have their needs and demands ,so in this point I urge the male and female in family to work after school as part time to have what they need as it is common in U.S.A and Europe, but alas in Arab countries it is very limited and restricted for few people , I ask such societies to give teenagers and other adults ,such handicapped opportunities to have jobs and good chances to live normally, have their basic needs, demands to go on with life difficulties.

I want to know how successful governments works on this issue to care about its citizens ,thus all will be satisfied somehow, it urges me as female to translate women feelings , sansations, worries, anxieties, abundance….etc).

Women issues are the most important issue that I like to talk about .First of all, women are oppressed in Arab Countries as well as in most parts of the world ,this fact came from that Arabic societies tends to respect males much much than females because of such society male means power, strength for their society, on the contrary from my experiences I found most of women are powerful ,strong ,decision makers as well as mothers ,housekeepers.

Patience is the most feature that women have in their lives ,it is enough how much pain and sorrows they have from men,children ,at work ,at every single minute in pregnancy after that delivery.

I will not be selfish by not mentioning the men role in women`s life,they are the main person who responsible to take care of house expenses and family needs ,it is obligation not voluntary unlike women. Still men and women complete each other in responsibilities, duties ,looking after their children as well as care about each other in many different aspects of life.

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Aida Abu Hammad

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Forms of charity in all societies

Charity makes life more easier on the need besides it will increase your income by doing this thus, you will feel that you have a lot of businesses you will have and things getting better.

I would like to give one important form which is basically done in U.S.A is that to donate your own car that you don’t need to kids so that you will have advantages of doing this .First of all, when you donate your car it is important to know that older cars older cars whose value would not offset the cost of towing are not accepted ,but if it is running or not isn’t an issue.

A local towing company will contact you within a few business hours of your initial call to us. Pickup is usually scheduled for 24 - 48 hours later. If you need your car picked up sooner than that, we will try to accommodate you as best we can (most often, we can!).

They accept car donations, RVs, boats, trailers, motorcycle, jet skis, vans, buses and snowmobiles as well as can take just about any vehicle.

The IRS allows you to claim a tax deduction of:

a) The value of your vehicle up to $500. It is up to the donor to determine the fair market value.

b) The amount we sell your vehicle for - if it is more than $500.

Kars4kids is a classified 501(c)(3) charity organization. You can check with your tax advisor or accountant to determine the amount of your benefit. The deduction is of value only if the donor itemizes his or her deductions.

They can usually pick up a vehicle without a title. they will just need the registered owner to sign some paperwork for them and so they take cars with mechanical defects.

We are responsible for the car until it is picked up. You are liable for all previous storage charges and previous fines. Once the car has been picked up they take full responsibility.

We shouldn’t be at home when they pick up the car, just clean the car of any personal belongings and leave the keys and title under the dashboard.

You will receive a temporary receipt from the towing company at the time of the pickup. It will have all your car information along with their name and phone number. You just have to notify them once the car gets towed and they will mail you the tax deductible receipt along with the hotel voucher.

When signing your title, please make certain that you print and sign your name as the "Seller" in EXACTLY the way it appears on the face of the title.

There is not any expense involved on your part, like towing charges. There is absolutely no charge.Areas of service included 50 states of U.S.A.

Kars4kids has a network of professionally licensed, bonded and insured towing agencies throughout the U.S. that pick up car donations. You will be contacted to arrange a time of pickup that is convenient for you, free of charge.

If someone passed away can the car still be donated?

We can pick up the car as long as you have a copy of the death certificate and documentation that you are the official inheritor of the deceased’s belongings.You can not donate abandoned car, Unfortunately they can not accept abandoned cars. You should try contacting a local junkyard to pick it up.Even your car if it didn’t pass the emission test ,they accept it.

In most states you should remove the license plates once the tower arrives and return them to the DMV. However, in the following states the license plates need to remain on the car: Alaska, California, Hawaii, Minnesota.



In the states of Arizona, California, Minnesota and Washington you must also turn in a release of liability to the DMV. In Washington and Minnesota this form is called a Report of Sale. In Alaska and Hawaii you need to complete and return a Notice of Vehicle Sale for transfer form that is attached to the bottom of your title.On these forms, you should fill in our name and address: Kars4kids, 1805 Swarthmore Ave. Lakewood, NJ 08701. For the vehicle purchase price you can fill in donation.

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